Comments on: with and without you http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you Making peace with the laundry, the kitchen, and the yard. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:03:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Crashing Waves http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6882 Crashing Waves Sun, 15 Aug 2010 12:54:43 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6882 I'm a bit late in arriving at this post but I'm hoping you can answer a question for me. How do you balance the faith you put into teacher with the connection your have with your spouse (when your spouse is non-practicing)? I'm considering taking the next step in my practice: practicing with a teacher. However, I can envision my husband having a problem with this, and can understand why he might not understand. My family is of the utmost importance to me; yet, as I grow into my practice, I'm realizing that doing it on my own soon isn't going to be enough. Karen, from reading Hand Wash Cold, I know that your husband is not Buddhist. Do you have any pearls of wisdom for me on this subject? I’m a bit late in arriving at this post but I’m hoping you can answer a question for me. How do you balance the faith you put into teacher with the connection your have with your spouse (when your spouse is non-practicing)? I’m considering taking the next step in my practice: practicing with a teacher. However, I can envision my husband having a problem with this, and can understand why he might not understand. My family is of the utmost importance to me; yet, as I grow into my practice, I’m realizing that doing it on my own soon isn’t going to be enough.

Karen, from reading Hand Wash Cold, I know that your husband is not Buddhist. Do you have any pearls of wisdom for me on this subject?

]]> By: Karen Maezen Miller http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6794 Karen Maezen Miller Mon, 19 Jul 2010 18:02:34 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6794 Solitary yes; lonely no. Keep practicing and soon you'll see that to be without is the only way to be totally with. Solitary yes; lonely no. Keep practicing and soon you’ll see that to be without is the only way to be totally with.

]]> By: nova http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6793 nova Mon, 19 Jul 2010 17:53:52 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6793 “I want you to practice with me and without me.” Maezen,these words have been in my head for days. They make me feel so happy, but also so very sad. Sometimes I find my practice to be a very lonely thing. I thought this post was sweet. “I want you to practice with me and without me.”

Maezen,these words have been in my head for days. They make me feel so happy, but also so very sad. Sometimes I find my practice to be a very lonely thing.
I thought this post was sweet.

]]> By: Karen Maezen Miller http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6784 Karen Maezen Miller Fri, 16 Jul 2010 19:53:52 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6784 I'm as surprised as you are Neil. No one needs more evidence that people are human, but a little evidence that Buddhists practice Buddhism would be nice. :) I’m as surprised as you are Neil. No one needs more evidence that people are human, but a little evidence that Buddhists practice Buddhism would be nice. :)

]]> By: Neil http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6783 Neil Fri, 16 Jul 2010 19:41:53 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6783 I'm a bit of an outsider, so I can't speak directly to this subject, but I am surprised to see a little back and forth, even mild testiness, in the zen community comments. I guess this is proof that everyone is human after all! I’m a bit of an outsider, so I can’t speak directly to this subject, but I am surprised to see a little back and forth, even mild testiness, in the zen community comments. I guess this is proof that everyone is human after all!

]]> By: Mama Zen http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6782 Mama Zen Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:47:30 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6782 Causing trouble again I see! Causing trouble again I see!

]]> By: Els http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6777 Els Fri, 16 Jul 2010 07:23:02 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6777 What a discussion on the Shamblala website! But your answer was spot on, Karen, as always. Thank you for you wise, and precise, words. What a discussion on the Shamblala website! But your answer was spot on, Karen, as always. Thank you for you wise, and precise, words.

]]> By: Swirly http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/with-and-without-you/comment-page-1#comment-6776 Swirly Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:19:31 +0000 http://www.karenmaezenmiller.com/?p=1848#comment-6776 Oh Oh Oh this is so gooooooood!! This idea that there are people out there who are "experts" has always felt strange to me, because how can everyone know what there is to know about anything? I will always be in a place of practicing the art of releasing all expectations, and I know that I will never "master" this. And I see my most important teachers not as people who have something I don't have, but as people who ~ by their example ~ inspire me in a number of ways. Oh Oh Oh this is so gooooooood!! This idea that there are people out there who are “experts” has always felt strange to me, because how can everyone know what there is to know about anything? I will always be in a place of practicing the art of releasing all expectations, and I know that I will never “master” this. And I see my most important teachers not as people who have something I don’t have, but as people who ~ by their example ~ inspire me in a number of ways.

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